Nine comments parents should never make to a child but we as a parent always think we are right in deciding and advising our children without realising that sometimes we make certain comments which can have an adverse effect on our children.
Nine comments parents should never make to a child
When children hear this, what was initially an act of independence becomes shrouded in failure and incompetence.2. When I was your age
3. Because I said so
By saying this parents assume the role of dictator, and children react to tyranny with resistance. Moreover, even if children eventually concede, they will more than likely find a way to retaliate.
4. Why can’t you be like your sister or brother?
With this comment, parents are conveying that they don’t like the person a child is and want him or her to be like someone else. As a result, the child feels degraded, useless, hopeless, and unloved.
5. If you don’t do what I say, I’m leaving you here
This statement should never be uttered because being abandoned by his or her parents is one of a child’s most terrifying nightmares. (Of course, if children have heard it repeatedly, they will simply laugh it off as a hollow threat and continue misbehaving).
6. How could you be so stupid?
This statement burdens children with a negative self-image, and their response is either to fight back by repeating their “stupidity” or by attempting to show the parent just how wrong he or she is.
7. Shut up!
Parents might as well slap a child in the face; this comment is that wounding and emotionally damaging. It can also cause children to become defiant, as well as justifiably angry.
8. You’ll never get anywhere in life
close to one another, children must test each other in every way, including physically. Besides, one of their goals is to get a parent involved, and when children succeed, the dangers of sibling rivalry are significantly increased.
Nice to read this, thankfully or sadly I just said the first one to my son.