Taking the plunge into the journey of motherhood is the most rewarding but it comes with a most demanding role. In between the role of a mother and a wife sometimes I ask myself, ” Where is ME?” It might sound familiar to all moms on this planet and the rest of the world will be a bit confused that what is she talking about? How a person can’t have an ME-time in a whole day.
Yes, exactly the Whole day =24 hours= 1,440 minutes and as a mom, i can’t get to squeeze some time out of 1,440 minutes !
When I was blessed with my son, Aayan – 7 years back; I was into my own dream world as everything revolves around him and time flies just like that from days to months to years. Growing with him are the best moments of my life. I have learnt a lot during this journey and as a first-time mom.
Probably when I joined back my office that guilt was always there leaving him behind and that thought of Me-time never came into my mind. As every day was rushing from office to childcare to home and afterwards spending time with him.
2 years back when my daughter Kaira was born and I choose to become a Stay-at-home-Mum(SAHM) with a total breastfeeding baby, I had a ZERO Me-time again but I was very happy to continue my breastfeeding for so long though that means sleepless nights and only going out to shopping malls with nursing rooms.
Managing two kids at home and not losing my temper with keeping my sanity itself was a big task. As my son started with his primary and my daughter started with her solids, I got only a few minutes in a day to call my own.
Only ME-time is the early morning after sending my son to his school and before my girl woke up or in the night when they are off to sleep. Being a VIRGO it is almost difficult to close my eyes to the home full of toys in every possible corner like an aftermath of a tornado and food on the table, carpet or that matter anything not in its own place which my hubby keep on reminding not to stress yourself with everything.
What exactly I do in my “ME-time” ? Is it like squeezing everything in that time or finding some peace and close my eyes. Some of the top favourite thoughts would definitely be – Shopping, manicure-pedicure and so on !! Seriously I am not good in any of these and I hardly engage myself into it.
Well !! Some of my favourites activities are …..
1. Blogging
I have started blogging sometime back when I felt like writing about my kids growing years, parenting stories, travel experiences, cooking and slowly fall in love with it. I felt that even if it is the little bit to share my thoughts I was happy to achieve something every day. Isn’t it that what Me-time is all about – feeling good !!
2. Cooking/Baking :
Trying something new and to cook for my family is always what I love to do and I got the chance to do it more when Aayan wants to bake with me, so what else can be a beautiful way to spend my time. Cooking is solely me but baking is many times with my kids.
3. Photography :
Though I am still an amateur but I love to clicks photos be it on my phone or on my camera. Only trying can take us to the perfection, so hoping for the best in coming years.
4. Scrapbooking / Crafts:
I started making a scrapbook during my 1st pregnancy and captured every detail on a monthly basis but with 2 kids now it has taken a backseat but it is one of the beautiful “me” time to relive my memories. Crafts with my kids is another wonderful way to enjoy and most of the time D-I-Y is what I totally appreciate. Creating something out of what you have is the best to learn and making a masterpiece.
5. Time spent with my hubby :
This is the best “ME’time” of all which I am enjoying from more than a decade now. From College friends to a couple to parents now, we have seen a lot more in our life than the years we have been together. So you might guess from how long we are married 🙂 ! I feel the best part of a married life is that you have a friend, a companion, a lover , a spouse who is always there to hold your hands, a shoulder to just relax and close your eyes, an ear to hear you and no matter how your life is !!
There are a lot of small things which I might not have mentioned here but they are definitely part of my life and making it so beautiful and lovely it is today ! Probably you all will be having your own way of “Me-time” and I will love to hear it. Do share it in the comments below.
This post is the part of the Blog Train hosted by Danessa from Prayerfull Mum ! It came to me at the right[Me-time} Birthday month !
Next in the blog train is Ashlyn Thia who shares her walk of faith, love and joy as a full time working mummy to 1. Many years back, she prayed for a child but God didn’t send her one immediately. Instead, he waited and blessed her with a daughter at the perfect timing. He continued to be her center of life, guide and lead her new journey. She writes about her life, faith, parenting, child, travel and crafting”adventures”- yes, many ups & downs !Check out her blog tomorrow to see how she likes to spend her me-time !!
So right….."ME" time is hard to find, but so very important for the whole family! Very nice….
Yes! Me time is so necessary. I'm a SAHM to a two year old and if I couldn't blog, cook and diy I don't know what I would do!
This resonates so much with me! I think it is so important to have me time. Our society seems to frown upon mothers getting me time but I feel to be the best mum we ax be, we have to look after ourselves!! So important !!
Me time is essential to a mothers sanity. I usually get my me time after the kids go to bed. I have a glass of wine and get cozy with a book or a favorite TV show. Its very important to cut out some time for yourself. Otherwise you will drive yourself crazy.
Tell me about it! It's so hard to squeeze in me-time's during the day especially if you have toddlers. Everything on this list is so doable.
It's good to know that you still have that much-needed me-time … I think we all need to have it once in a while, moms or not. It's all for our sanity, lol.
good to know that you still manage to grab some ME time while tending to 2 growing children! btw, is that oreo lollies that you've made?
One of my best girlfriend has just delivered a healthy baby girl and as a new mom she need to read some things like this for her to get ideas on how to be a mom and wife and still having a me-time for herself.
For me, it's Bible study time, Long conversations with hubby, research (health, alternative news, current events), Blogging, Cooking with hubby, Photography and Crafting. We're pretty much on the same boat. 🙂
It's admiring to know how you manage to have time for both your kids and yourself. Every mom should really spare some time for themselves to relax and enjoy as well. Your list can serve as tips or suggestions for other moms out there looking for what to do during free time.
Yes, as parents we really need "me" time to keep our sanity. For us, Blogging is really our main "me" time. Your husband is so lucky that time with him you also consider as your "me" time..
It's difficulty to squeeze in me time for mom's but you deserve it and should enjoy it too. These would be nice activities for mommy me time.
Me time is definitely important, but I realised many mums don't bear to leave their kids away for too long as they are too attached to them!
I agree with you, that spending time with our husbands should be the best "me-time" to invest in. I'm grateful that you were able to join in the blog train. Thank you for your support!
We all need me-time! Glad that you are able to enjoy yours:)
All are definitely great points! Moms need me-time to keep themselves well-rounded and stress-free! 😀
Everyone need me-time for sure. With baby, it is really difficult to have the only me-time… Enjoy when you have it.
I really hope to become a SAHM soon. You get to bond so much with your kids and I'll have more time to blog! 🙂
I really hope to become a SAHM soon. You get to bond so much with your kids and I'll have more time to blog! 🙂
Great that you have time for your hobbies despite looking after your kids 🙂 Reminds me to leave some me-time and not to work so hard.. 😉
Hahaha! I was a ftwm both times after birth, after a three month maternity leave. I really enjoyed going back to work – that was my me time.
Hope you will find more ME time in between caring for the family. I read that mothers have to put their own priorities first or they can't be their best for their family.
hehe.. love to read your story. I started blogging too coz my children then also contests. Now blogging is passion.
My blogging start because of my little Angels as I wanted them to know what I had done together with them when they grow up.
http://www.mommyjane.com
Great tips dear! Thanks for sharing, and definitely family is the most important in our life, and spending time with them are most precious one 😀
Good one! Be around the family while doing thing you enjoy the most.
http://www.princesscindyrina.com/2015/09/coffee-lovers-caffeine-vs-decaf.html
Time for some me time!~ Good one..
http://cre8tonebabe.blogspot.com
Lovely tips dear 🙂 Spending time with the family is one of the focal points that all of us should cover. Great share ^^
You're such a family person and brave to decide to become a SAHM!! Glad that you found many joys in life 😀
Looks like you are a great example that people should follow. Love how you prioritise bonding time with your kids. Good job at being a mom! 😀
OMG I really wonder how you manage all these… you are a real super mom!
It was quite amaze how you can separate your time for blog, house work and even for husband! Is never been an easy job but it was worth of all! hehe
It is all about balance. Else you would feel bored in marriage and being a parent. Good to know you have a well balanced life.
Wow! Hi Pooja, I also recently blogging about my me time too! ; ) Mine simple as you should know by now I love to draw…so my me time will be drawing lo : ) ha..ha…Cheers, https://siennylovesdrawing.wordpress.com/
blog like diary. anything about child progres ,wrote at story ,,, and one day when we read again.. will miss that momen
it's not easy to find me time especially for stay at home moms and when you have more than one kid. it can be rather frustrating at times. my only me time is when i am at work.
Being a parent always the nice thing !
Agree! Juggling between mom-wife-me is really hard, husband plays a big role especially in the helping part 🙂
It is not easy to have your own time when you have a kid. Enjoy your me time.
It is not easy to have your own time when you have a kid. Enjoy your me time.
so sweet, the wife is currently still breastfeeding too, for close to 3 years already , and still going strong.
I was on this blog train too! My current favourie me-time is reading travel blogs and books!
I was on this blog train too and I can so identify with some of your secret indulgences like scrapbooking and of course blogging. http://ajugglingmom.com/making-time-for-my-mummys-me-time-indulgences/ Hope you get to have more mummy's me-time as the kids get older.
Not only mum, dads crave for more me time, or couple time too 🙂
Thanks for sharing, Pooja.
cheers, Andy
(SengkangBabies)
Great looking family u have here! Spending time with my spouse is also a great "me time" for me! 🙂
My kids sleep relatively early but I'm too tired by the end of the day to have any "me time" when they sleep. I would be off to sleep too! I yearn for "me" time just like you. For me, as I am a FTWM, I would sometimes take leave to spend the day by myself while the kids are at childcare. That is also the time when I blog. 🙂
Vivien @ Beautiful Chaos
I had wanted to hop onto this blog train but I thought for days and weeks; and I still cannot pinpoint what Me time I got to enjoy ever since I had kids. I really need to think about this thoroughly. Again.
I think having a mum who's well rested, nourished in her body and soul, supported by good friends, is the best gift we can give our children. Great post!
I love the Halloween platter you created! I agree spending time with hubby is a fav ME time…a short period of time away from the kids, just connecting and catching up with our partner…that itself is a luxury!
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